WHEN THEY’RE GOSSIPING ABOUT YOU (1)
Tabloids, talk shows, and reality shows thrive on a diet of gossip. Indeed, we’re each likely to spread our share of it and receive our share of it. And whether it’s based on truth, fiction or bits of both, doesn’t make it any less hurtful. Though society considers it as relatively innocent, God puts gossip in the same company as ‘…backstabbing…conceit, and disorderly conduct’ (2 Corinthians 12:20 CEB).
So, when you’re the target of gossip, what can you do?
1) When possible, ignore it.
People who gossip get satisfaction out of upsetting you. So the more you get upset, the more they gossip. Don’t react in anger; that just fuels the fire. ‘Without wood a fire goes out; without gossips, conflict calms down’ (Proverbs 26:20 CEB).
2) When appropriate, correct it.
Gossip can wreak havoc and break hearts. So if you can set the record straight you may be able to contain the damage. But forget about attempting to ‘tell everybody you know the real story’; you’ll only spread the flames, widen the exposure, and feed unhealthy appetites.
Solomon said, ‘The words of a gossip are like tasty bits of food; people like to gobble them up’ (v. 22 NCV). Step back and ask yourself who’s really important in your life, then try to correct the record with them. In time, they’ll vindicate you with others.
In many cases their words will come across as being more objective than yours. If the gossip is based on truth or partial truth, don’t deny or excuse yourself. True friends always forgive and defend their friends and gossips generally find juicier rumours, move on, and leave you alone.
‘…gossips alienate close friends.’ Proverbs 16:28 CEB
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ENCOURAGEMENT FOR TODAY
O Lord, you have searched me & know me! I praise you, for I am fearfully & wonderfully made. You saw me before when I was born. Every day of my life my life was recorded in your book! Every moment was laid before a single day had passed! How precious to me & know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, & lead me in the way everlasting!
Every day of your life has already been written!
What will today read in your precious book?
Let it be the beginning of the most amazing chapter of your life!
Ask God to search your heart & lead you perfectly today!
He has promised you so much!
Only believe & seek him today & you will be amazed!