The Importance of Patterns
We focus on individual incidents, but the God of the big picture focuses on patterns. He determined twenty-four hours in each day, seven days in each week, four seasons in each year, etc. Birth is followed by infancy, childhood, youth, adulthood, old age. Imagine how different your life would be without these patterns!
Sure, you might feel that patterns can be boring, but God created us to need patterned lives.
Patterns provide predictability,
and predictability provides comfort, control, and security.
Simply knowing that Saturday follows Wednesday helps you get through an exhausting week. Many of our relational issues would be resolved if we paid more attention to our negative patterns and concentrated on establishing positive ones.
Does this conversation sound familiar?
The husband asks, ‘Why do you always bring things up just when I’m falling asleep? Can’t you find a better time?’ The wife returns fire, ‘There’s never a better time to get your attention!’ In your relationships, the use of words like ‘always’ and ‘never’ only intensifies the problem. Until you understand and change your patterns, you’ll forever be attempting to put out relational fires.
Establishing a simple pattern of spending an hour or two each week with a loved one or with family members establishes a pattern of bonding. It can be a time to discuss concerns, air out issues, or simply to make plans.
Patterns are God’s idea.
The predictability and promise they bring help defuse reactive emotions and establish an environment where his children feel both loved and valued!
‘Make everything according to the pattern I have shown you.’ Exodus 25:40 NLT