Speak the Truth in Love

Even in a great relationship, you will have disagreements. That’s why you need to learn to fight fair.

Paul addresses it this way: ‘…speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ…’ If you grew up in a home filled with tension and angry words, you may find yourself trying to avoid arguments at any cost. But silence doesn’t solve problems; it just allows them to become unspoken wedges between you.

What should you do?

First, try to understand the difference between healthy and unhealthy conflict. In an unstable marriage, hostility is aimed at your spouse’s soft underbelly with comments like, ‘you never do anything right!’ and ‘Why did I marry you in the first place?’ and ‘You’re getting more like your mother every day!’ Such remarks strike at the very heart of your mate’s self-worth.

Healthy conflict, by contrast, remains focused on the issues that cause disagreement. For example: ‘It upsets me when you don’t tell me you’re going to be late for dinner,’ or ‘I was embarrassed when you made me look foolish at the party last night.’

Can you hear the difference?

Even though the two approaches may be equally contentious, the first assaults the dignity of your spouse while the second addresses the source of conflict. When you learn to make this important distinction, you can work through your disagreements without wounding and insulting each other. Plus, when gaining the upper hand leaves your spouse feeling wounded and upset, you both lose.

Remember: when someone feels loved and valued, they’re generally more open and receptive to what you have to say.

‘…Speak the truth in love…’    Ephesians 4:15 NLT



2 Thessalonians 1:3, 11-12; 2:13-14; 3:5, 6, 15, 13, 18

We ought always to give thanks to god for you, because your faith is growing abundantly, and the love of every one of you for one another is increasing! To this end we always pray for you, that our god may make you worthy of his calling and may fulfill every resolve for good and every work of faith by his power, so that the name of our Lord Jesus may be glorified in you and you in him! God chose you as the first fruits to be saved, through sanctification by the spirit and belief in the truth. To this he called you through our gospel, so that you may obtain the glory of our Lord Jesus Christ! May the Lord direct your hearts to the love of god and to the steadfastness of Christ! We command you that you keep away from any brother who is walking in idleness. Do not regard him as an enemy, but warn him as a brother! Do not grow weary in doing well! The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you all! Amen!!!

Let your faith grow abundantly& increase in your love today! Never delay!

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