Singles need three things:
(1) Acceptance. “He who finds a wife finds a good thing.” But what if you can’t find “a good thing”? By placing all emphasis on marriage and family, the church can make singles feel like “a fifth wheel.” “God places the lonely in families.” (Psalm 68:6 NLT) So let’s include them, motivate them and make them feel right at home.
(2) Healing. There are probably some people in your church who have been through a divorce; a breakup. People who’ve been through divorce have been through hell, and they don’t need to be treated like second-class citizens. Regardless of who’s “guilty” or who’s “innocent,” hearts need to be mended and lives need to be reclaimed. We’re in the “oil and wine business.” Remember the story of the Good Samaritan? He poured oil, which speaks of spiritual empowerment, and wine, which speaks of joy, into the dying man’s wounds. And Jesus said that we are to “Go and do likewise.” (Luke 10:37 NIV)
(3) Hope. God “brought Eve to Adam.” (See Genesis 2:22-23) If you’re single or you know of one who is struggling, don’t be driven by loneliness and unmet needs, but to be led by God. Here is a prayer: “Lord, reassure me that I’m believing according to Your will. Teach me the difference between what I must pursue and what I must wait on You for. They say You are never late. In these days of waiting, keep me strong in faith. Don’t let me stop short of my blessing. Remind me that I must not throw away my confidence for it will be richly rewarded. In Christ’s name. Amen.”
“He who finds a wife finds a good thing.” Proverbs 18:22 NKJV