On Marriage (3)
Clara Null says: ‘My Sunday school class was learning the Ten Commandments.
When we got to ‘‘Thou shalt not commit adultery’’, I wondered if I’d have to explain it. Sure enough, a seven-year-old girl raised her hand and asked, ‘‘What does commit mean?’’’ Seriously, if you live by impulse instead of commitment, your relationships, and most especially your (future) marriage will suffer.
The word ‘commitment’ is best described in a couple’s wedding vows. we’ve all heard them: ‘Will you have this woman (or man) to be your lawful wedded wife (or husband)…to live together in God’s holy ordinance of marriage…to be faithful…in good times and bad, in sickness and health, and forsaking all others, remain faithful to her (or him)?’ That’s what a couple says before God!
A big hotel displayed this sign on its bulletin board for passing motorists to read: ‘Have your next affair with us!’ That’s not so funny when you consider the ramifications (Big word! Google it!)!
A prominent psychiatrist said, ‘I’ve counselled thousands of couples, and I’ve yet to meet my first happy adulterer.’ The results are always the same: shame, fear, loss, loneliness, and depression.
When you violate your own integrity, it’s hard to live in your own skin. Don’t be deceived by celebrities who hop from bed to bed.
The secret to happiness in marriage isn’t finding the right person, it’s becoming the right person.
The Bible says you’re supposed to care about the spiritual, emotional, material, and sexual needs of your spouse. So, if you’re thinking of tying the knot, start discussing these things. And if you find it difficult to talk about them, get help—holy matrimony is worth fighting (and preparing) for!
‘Marriage should be honoured…for God will judge the adulterer and…the…immoral.’
Hebrews 13:4 NIV