How to Overcome Perfectionism

Be honest: Have you ever met a perfectionist who was truly happy?

No, because when things must always ‘be a certain way’, life becomes miserable because it’s constantly changing. As soon as you solve one problem, another comes along.

Instead of dwelling on their blessings and being grateful, perfectionists focus on what’s wrong and why they need to fix it. It may be a job they did that was less than perfect, a few pounds they need to lose, or even a disorganized wardrobe. Or it could be someone else’s imperfections: the way they live their life, how they behave with their kids, or the way they look when in church.

Constantly dwelling on flaws—your own or someone else’s—makes it impossible to be grateful. And gratitude is at the core of happiness. Now, let’s be clear; we’re not talking about striving to do better. That’s a good thing. We’re talking about obsessing over what’s wrong. There’ll always be a better way to do something, but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy life the way it is right now.

So what’s the cure?

Catch yourself before you fall into the trap of insisting that things should be different from how they are. Stop and remind yourself that, in the absence of your judgment, everything will work out just fine. Paul says, ‘…in all things God works for the good of those who love him…’ (Romans 8:28 NIV).

Are you getting it?

God’s in control; its okay for you to let go. Instead of focusing on the negative, ‘think about the things that are good and worthy of praise’. When you do, you’ll begin to discover how wonderful life is.

‘…think about the things that are good…’ Philippians 4:8 NCV



Romans 5:5, 8:15-16, 28-29, 32; John 13:35

By this all people will now that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another! God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us! You have received the spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, “Abba! Father! The spirit himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God! And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. For those whom he foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his son! he who did not spare his own son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things?
God’s love has been poured into your heart! Pour out His love today!

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