Family matters (3)
God doesn’t deny us the right to our emotions, but He does hold us accountable for how we handle them. That means we don’t get into the habit of using those nearest and dearest to us as emotional punch bags. Paul said, ‘Don’t sin by letting anger control you…anger gives a foothold to the devil.’ Satan would like nothing better than to wriggle his way into your home, then turn it into a living hell. And every time you fly off the handle you make more space for his bitter influence. Does your home need less hot words and more cool heads?
King Solomon said, ‘People with quick tempers show their foolishness’ (Proverbs 14:29 NCV). It’s okay to share your feelings, but you need to learn to do it the right way; the way that doesn’t have everyone walking on eggshells when they’re around you. Surely you realized by now that the issue is never who’s right or wrong, (or who can shout the loudest), it’s about finding the answer that’s best for everyone.
Nobody can be everything you want them to be, all the time. It’s impossible to have a long-term, loving relationship without learning to accept human weaknesses. So, instead of focusing on your family’s failures, focus on your collective strength.
Psychologist Dr Paul Pearsall says, ‘Most of us would give our lives for a family member. Yet too often we live our daily life as if we take our families for granted.’ Learn to bite your lip; your family is worth it. Why would you want to wind up the people God’s placed to be there for you in the past, in the present and into your future?
‘WHEN YOU ARE ANGRY, DO NOT SIN, AND BE SURE TO STOP BEING ANGRY BEFORE THE END OF THE DAY.’ EPHESIANS 4:26 NCV