Ease Up on Control

Some kids at a summer camp were discussing creation, and one asked, ‘If everything has a purpose, how come God made poison ivy?’

Another replied, ‘Because He knows there are some things we should keep our hands off of!’ But keeping your hands off things isn’t easy when you’re insecure and controlling by nature. ‘Sometimes my (insert any relationship here: mother, boyfriend, father, brother, boss) drives me crazy,’ you say. Well, maybe you drive them crazy too!

Jesus said, ‘…Stop allowing yourselves to be…unsettled’ (John 14:27 AMP). You’re doing it to yourself! Learn to ‘let go’ (Insert requisite singing of Elsa…) and work on developing the fruits of the Spirit in your own life.

Letting go doesn’t mean you don’t care; it just means allowing others to learn in their own way and through their own experiences. It calls for focusing on Jesus rather than obsessing on the other person’s behavior. ‘You will keep in perfect peace…all whose thoughts are fixed on You!’ (Isaiah 26:3 NLT). Fix your thoughts on God, not others.

Letting go means caring about, instead of care-taking. It means stepping out of the middle and not trying to influence the outcome by fixing, judging, nagging, scolding, arguing, criticising, and regulating. It’s about facing each day with God’s help and cherishing each moment. It’s about realising the only person you can ‘change’ is yourself. It’s about fearing less and trusting more. And it’s the only way to be happy.

‘Love…does not demand its own way…’  1 Corinthians 13:4-5 NLT

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