For effective communication:
1) Make use of the ‘eye-gate’.
Eye contact stimulates the brain’s social-network circuits, decreasing the stress hormone and increasing the sympathy hormone. Intentionally looking at the other person enables you to quickly respond to the seven basic facial expressions—anger, fear, sadness, disgust, surprise, contempt, and happiness. These are keys; use them.
2) Express appreciation.
The first words you speak set the tone for the entire interaction.
A single compliment can create trust.
Loyola University researchers found that when people in conversation are in basic agreement, interactions between them are experienced as mutually satisfying.
Alternatively, disagreement immediately creates defensiveness in the listener. So begin each conversation with a compliment, and end it with a phrase that conveys genuine appreciation. Research demonstrates that remarks made at the end of an interaction are especially effective because they linger in the hearer’s mind. ‘Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul (emotions) and healing to the bones.’
3) Keep it brief.
Our conscious minds retain only a tiny bit of information, which is ‘booted out’ of our memory as new information is uploaded. So it’s better to speak a sentence or two at a time, then take a breath. ‘…let your words be few’ (Ecclesiastes 5:2 NAS). If you think a lengthy conversation is needed, let your listener know in advance. This prepares them to focus, and ignore the intrusiveness of their own inner self-talk.
‘Pleasant words are…healing…’ Proverbs 16:24 NAS
ENCOURAGEMENT 4 TODAY
Hebrews 3:13; 9:26; 10:22-24
Encourage one another every day, as long as it is called today, that none of you may be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin.
He has appeared once for all at the end of the ages to put away sin by the sacrifice of himself.
Let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, with our hearts sprinkled clean from an evil conscience, & our bodies washed with pure water.
Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, for he who promised is faithful.
And let us consider how to stir up one another to love & good works!
He is able to save to the uttermost those who draw near to God through him, since he always lives to make intercession for them.
He will appear a second time, not to deal with sin but to save those who are eagerly waiting for Him!
Be encouraged, God is faithful! He has promised to save you if you will draw near to Him today!