Choose the Right Friends (2)
Take the initiative.
Don’t wait to be introduced.
Say ‘hello’ and get the other person’s name.
If you’re naturally shy, it can be hard taking the first step. But the chances are that the other person feels the same, and when you start talking you’ll find things in common.
Take a risk.
If you like somebody, go a little deeper and mention a small struggle, fear, or disappointment you’ve experienced.
It’s called ‘manageable risk’ and it lets you gauge how the other person responds.
If they’re caring and identify with what you’re saying, that’s a good sign. If they shut down, try to fix you or respond critically, it may be time to move on.
Invite them to join you.
If everything else works out, exchange ‘phone numbers and invite the other person for coffee or lunch. Then go for a second meeting and give it a little time; that way you’ll know if it’s a friendship worth developing.
Find out where people go to spend time. There are lots of places to get to know new people, like church, the gym, school, a bike group, or volunteer service.
Be willing to leave your comfort zone and try new situations.
Remember that God uses all kinds of friendships to fulfil His purpose.
One prominent preacher says: ‘There are friends who were instrumental in my blessing, although they never embraced or affirmed me.
These are the “Judas sector” that exists in the life of every child of God…the ones who cause you the most pain. They wound…and betray you, but through their betrayal God’s will can be executed in your life.’
Ask God for a friend, then go out and make one!
‘Two people are better off than one.’ Ecclesiastes 4:9 NLT