Can You Take Advice?

The only thing that’s worse than making a mistake is concealing it and allowing pride to lock us in to it.

Why do we do that?

Insecurity! Low self-esteem! We’re all prone to being defensive from time to time. But if you find that this has become a pattern in your life, you must do something about it.


1) Try to listen to yourself as you speak; become aware of your tendency to defend and justify your actions.

2) Guard against defensive body language. For example, crossing your arms when someone is offering their opinion could be your subconscious way of saying, ‘I’m closed to what you’re saying.’

3) Counter the anxiety that comes with feeling attacked, by breathing deeply and silently praying, ‘Lord, I receive Your strength now.’ Combining this physical and spiritual act will help to minimize your emotional response.

4) If there is a genuine and credible justification for your action, state it in a calm, unemotional manner. And if you are really brave, ask a trusted friend or co-worker if you are being defensive. Then refuse to become defensive if the response is, ‘Yes!’

5) Don’t attack your attacker. Simply ask them what they would have done in the situation under discussion. Then thank them for sharing their insights.

6) If you are guilty of a bad decision or wrong behavior, try admitting it before it comes to light. A simple ‘I made a mistake’ will give you credibility, preserve your integrity, and not allow your mistake to redefine who you are in the eyes of others. It may even increase their level of trust in you.

‘Where there is no counsel, the people fall…’ Proverbs 11:14 NKJV



Psalm 119:2-3, 9-11, 105, 130, 147, 135

Blessed are those who keep his word, who seek Him with their whole heart, who also do not wrong, but walk in His ways! How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word. With my whole heart I seek you! I have stored up your word in my heart that I might not sin against you! Your word is a lamp to my feet & a light to my path. The unfolding of your words gives light; it imparts understanding to the simple. I rise before dawn & cry for help; I hope in your words! Make your face shine upon your servant & teach me your words!
God loves you! Unfold His word today! Never delay!

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