Beyond the Myths of Parenting (1)
Here are two myths of parenting:
1) Good parents always keep tidy homes. We think our house should look picture-perfect, so we get upset when our children turn it upside down. However, an obsession with neatness can result in missing precious moments that never come again. Unintentionally, we teach our children that things—not people—are important.
We instil the idea that keeping up appearances matters more than enjoying life together. The truth is, the house will be orderly sooner than you think, and quiet, and empty! So enjoy the disarray, the laughter, the spills and scrapes. Let the nicks and scratches on the furniture become memories of precious moments with little people who’ll grow up feeling loved and important to you.
2) Good parents must always be ‘right’. Writer and mother Ann Peterson shares an insight that struck while she was engaged in a run-in with her son. ‘Finally, through clenched teeth I managed to ask him, “Why must you always be right?” He responded through clenched teeth (must have learned that from his father), “Because you always have to be right.” I sensed God watching that moment. Words were unnecessary. I got the message loud and clear.
From that moment on, being “right” lacked the luster it once held for me.’ The relationship with her son became less resistant, ‘Something I’d have missed, had I not conceded the need to be always right.’ So choose your battles carefully! Good parenting isn’t about racking up ‘victories’ and dishing out ‘defeats’; it’s about enjoying your family.
‘…Children are a gift from the Lord…’ Psalms 127:3 CEB
ENCOURAGEMENT 4 TODAY
Colossians 1:9-11; 3:1-5, 10, 14, 16; 4:17
God’s word bring life! As you take in His amazing words today, believe them & live what has been shown to you! And above all love everyone God gives you today! Never delay!
We have not ceased to pray for you, asking that you may be filled with the knowledge of his will in all spiritual wisdom & understanding, so as to walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to Him, bearing fruit in every good work & increasing in the knowledge of god! May you be strengthened with all power, according to His glorious might! If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above! Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. For you have died, & your life is hidden with Christ in God! Put to death therefore what is earthly in you! Put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its Creator! Above all put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony! Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly! See that you fulfill the ministry that you have received in the Lord!